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On the Map: Quantum of the Seas Takes a Quantum Leap to Cabo and Ensenada (VIDEO)
By Mark McNease
Another early morning, another cup of coffee, my laptop, and the Harp & Horn Pub, my quiet writing refuge aboard Quantum of the Seas. Most mornings I settle into a table at the empty pub on the fourth-floor promenade. The coffee is available 24/7 right next door, the restaurant is silent, and for a couple of peaceful hours it’s the perfect place to work. I’m not someone who can travel without writing; it’s how I stay productive and keep that creative momentum going.
As our Mexico cruise winds down, I’ve been thinking about how quickly this sailing has gone by. This trip has been one of my favorites, and the only real drawback is its length. Six nights just isn’t quite enough time to visit two ports and fully settle into the rhythm of cruising. Ten days feels right. Twelve is even better. Six feels like we’re just getting started and want more.
The sea days were relaxed and restorative, the kind that remind me why I love cruising in the first place. Add in good meals, unexpected conversations, and moments of quiet routine, and it all reminds me why I enjoy this kind of vacation more than most.
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This Week’s Survey: What’s More Important to You As You Age?
As you age, what’s more important to you? Multiple answers okay
Feeling calm and content through the ups and downs of life
Staying curious, creative and engaged
Maintaining friendships and relationships
Feeling seen, valued and heard
Having flexibility with my time and choices
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One Thing or Another: Life, Aging, and the Absurdities Of It All – Staying Visible As We Age

One Thing or Another: Life, Aging, and the Absurdities Of It All – Staying Visible As We Age
By Mark McNease
Stay tuned for the return of the One Thing Or Another Podcast: Interviews and Conversation
There’s a moment that comes with aging, a sort of chronological line we cross, when we realize that visibility is no longer something society affords everyone in equal measure.
Earlier in life, being visible often felt like a requirement. We showed up, spoke up, proved ourselves. Being seen was tied to usefulness, productivity, and momentum. Along the way, many of us also learned how to edit and censor ourselves, lowering our voices, choosing our words carefully, deciding when to speak and when to let things pass. Those habits don’t disappear just because the years do.
And then one day, it all shifted. We became older, and invisibility entered our lives whether we invited it or not. Clerks talked past us. Conversations moved forward without our input. Our experiences were acknowledged politely or not-so-politely, then set aside.
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Terri Schlichenmeyer’s Book Picks: Books About Health

By Terri Schlichenmeyer
The Bookworm SezEvery little sniffle. $28 – $30
Various page countsIt feels like you’ve caught them all, no matter how hard you try to avoid getting sick. You wash your hands, you cover your mouth and nose and wash some more. So now try these new health-related books and see if they don’t help.
They say that getting your steps in helps you live longer, and reading “Life After Cars” by Sarah Goodyear, Doug Gordon and Aaron Naparstek (Thesis, $28) will make you eager to do so, rather than drive. In this book, you’ll see what more than a century’s worth of automobile use has done to the air you breathe, the environment, wildlife, human health and safety, the economy, and to lost productivity. It’s a book that calls for change or, at the very least, more mindfulness.
The bad news is that it’ll be allergy season soon.
The good news is that “All About Allergies” by Zachary Rubin, MD (Plume, $30) exists to help you make sense of them. You’re sneezing, your eyes are scratchy, your nose can’t stop running, and breathing normally ain’t happening. Rubin offers cutting-edge information about various allergies including food allergies, asthma, hay fever, and other reasons you feel a mess during certain seasons. (Out 2/24).
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Devil’s Wood Chapter 4: Double Take (AUDIO – Final Tease)

Yes, this is my final offering from the upcoming ‘Devil’s Wood.’ It will be out by this summer, and if you’re hooked listening to these chapter samples, you’ll want to buy the book! Fasten your headphones for one last teaser. – Mark
Devil’s Wood begins when two boys wander into the woods outside Lambertville, New Jersey, and uncover a strange walking stick buried in the soil. One boy feels an immediate, nameless dread and keeps his distance; the other is drawn to it, pulling it free and revealing a grim truth beneath the earth—a human skull buried alongside the object. The discovery hints at an old, unfinished wrong, and a wood that has long remembered what was done there, waiting patiently for someone to find it.
The stick first surfaces in the life of Peter Brightly, a forty-two-year-old antique dealer struggling to hold together the fragments of his life after a painful divorce. As Peter becomes increasingly attached to the object, his health, judgment, and moral center begin to erode. The wood exerts a quiet pull, the past presses closer, and Peter is forced to confront how far he is willing to go to protect his own sanity.
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This Week’s Fun Facts: Things to Know about Mexico

We’re heading out this morning for a tour of Cabo San Lucas, having spent two days on Royal Caribbean’s Quantum of the Seas getting here from Los Angeles. I’m a big fan of Mexico, and one of my favorite trips was a business convention I organized in Mexico City 20 years ago. I still use a blanket I got there as a seat cushion at my desk. Here are some things you may nor may not know about this wonderful country and its past.
Mexico City is sinking—slowly. Built on an ancient lakebed, parts of the city sink several inches a year.
Corn was born here. Maize was domesticated in Mexico over 9,000 years ago and is still central to daily life.
Chocolate started as a drink. The ancient Maya and Aztecs drank cacao mixed with spices—no sugar involved.
The ancient Maya kept stingless bees. Their honey was prized and used medicinally.
Tequila can only be made in specific regions. It’s legally protected—like Champagne in France.
Colorful streets aren’t accidental. Bright paint helped people navigate cities long before street numbers were common.
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Savvy Senior: Tools to Help You Find the Perfect Place to Retire

By Jim Miller
Dear Savvy Senior,
What resources can you recommend for researching good places to retire in the U.S.? My husband and I are interested in relocating to a warmer climate when we retire next year.
Looking to Relocate
Dear Looking,
It’s exciting to think about relocating in retirement! Whether you’re considering seasonal escapes or a permanent change, there are a wide variety of digital resources that can help you find and research new locations. Here are some tips and tools to help you get started.
Where to Retire?
Deciding where to relocate when you retire is a big decision. There are many factors to think about to ensure the move supports your lifestyle, financial goals, and overall well-being. To help you identify some good retirement locations you need to consider things like cost of living, climate, taxes, health care, housing, crime, access to social and recreational activities, access to transportation and proximity to family and friends.
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Tech Talk: Email Overload: Taming the Inbox Once and for All

By Mark McNease
Sometimes reaching for our phones results in immediate overload: all those emails! Important ones, not-so-important ones, and the spam that manages to get through our spam filter. Add to that the ‘string’ setting for most providers now that gives us 16 replies to a single email. It’s maddening, and even a little depressing if we let it get to us. This week is about finally taking control of email instead of letting it control us.
Whether you use Gmail through Google or Outlook through Microsoft (my service of choice), the core problem is the same: email was never designed to handle the volume we throw at it today. Newsletters, shopping alerts, social notifications, work messages, and pervasive junk all land in the same place, competing for our attention. Fortunately, there are tools more powerful than most people realize, and with a few smart tweaks, we can turn chaos into something manageable.

The first step is understanding and trusting filters. Gmail and Outlook both do a decent job of sorting mail into categories like Primary, Promotions, and Spam, but they work best when you actively train them. When you move an email out of your main inbox into a folder or category, you’re teaching your email system what matters and what doesn’t. Over time, this dramatically reduces clutter without requiring daily micromanagement.
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This Week’s Fun Facts: The Life of a Cruise Ship Crew

We’ll be boarding Royal Caribbean’s Quantum of the Seas tomorrow at the Los Angeles cruise terminal. Look for a travelogue on that next week. For now, here are some fun (and not-so-fun) facts about the life of the crew.
1. Time completely stops making sense
You can work a shift that starts on Monday, ends on Tuesday, and somehow still feels like Thursday. The ship changes time zones. Your body gives up.
2. You live in a beautiful prison with excellent views
You are surrounded by the ocean, but you are not allowed to leave whenever you want. Crew learn very quickly that “freedom” is measured in port hours and gangway times.
3. You stop reacting to alarms
Bells. Sirens. Announcements. After a while, your brain automatically asks, “Is this a drill or can I finish my coffee?” (Correct answer: report anyway.)
4. The crew corridors feel like a horror movie set
Endless white hallways. No windows. Doors that look identical. You can walk for ten minutes and swear you’re back where you started. Some crew swear the ship moves differently at night.
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On the Map: Ojai Still Charms After All These Years
By Mark McNease
This is a travelogue, so I’ll skip the history lesson. I lived in Ojai, California, in 1979 after fleeing Indiana three days after my high school graduation. It’s always been a special place for me, an early refuge. My sister Cathy has lived in the same house here for 50 years this month. That’s it for the memoir.
Ojai is a magical town in the mountains about 90 minutes from Los Angeles and 40 minutes from Santa Barbara. It’s not far from Ventura, where I also lived once upon a time. Frank and I have been here a half dozen times over our 20 years together (next December) and we love spending several days and nights here. From this visit’s must-list: the Blue Iguana Inn, where we’re staying. It’s just 50 yards or so from my sister’s house, and it’s a lovely and slightly sprawling boutique hotel; dinner at Rumfish y Vino in Ventura; lunch at The Duchess in Ojai; and coffee-with-a-laptop at Ojai Coffee Roasters, where I’m writing this now. Keep reading for more about Ojai and the area, and if you ever get the chance, come stay a spell. It’s the kind of place where saying ‘stay a spell’ is a good way of putting it.
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Devil’s Wood Chapter 3: Who’ll Stop the Rain? (AUDIO)

Devil’s Wood begins when two boys wander into the woods outside Lambertville, New Jersey, and uncover a strange walking stick buried in the soil. One boy feels an immediate, nameless dread and keeps his distance; the other is drawn to it, pulling it free and revealing a grim truth beneath the earth—a human skull buried alongside the object. The discovery hints at an old, unfinished wrong, and a wood that has long remembered what was done there, waiting patiently for someone to find it.
The stick first surfaces in the life of Peter Brightly, a forty-two-year-old antique dealer struggling to hold together the fragments of his life after a painful divorce. As Peter becomes increasingly attached to the object, his health, judgment, and moral center begin to erode. The wood exerts a quiet pull, the past presses closer, and Peter is forced to confront how far he is willing to go to protect his own sanity.
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Your Weekly LGBTSr Humorscope: ‘T’ is for Taurus

Some humor from the stars in these challenging times.
♈ Aries
You’re feeling fired up and mildly intolerant of nonsense. Choose your battles carefully. Not everything needs your opinion—just most things.♉ Taurus
Comfort is non-negotiable this week. If something disrupts your routine, snacks, or favorite chair, you’re allowed to complain about it loudly.♊ Gemini
You’re juggling too many thoughts and at least one unnecessary conversation. Focus. Or pivot. You’re very good at pivoting.♋ Cancer
You’re nostalgic, sensitive, and emotionally invested in something from 2009. Feel it, release it, and then absolutely bring it up again later.
