One Thing or Another: Calamari Wishes and Cashier Dreams

It’s always One Thing or Another … a lighthearted look at aging, life, and the absurdities of it all.

By Mark McNease 

Life is about downsizing now, reducing the number of things someone will have to have hauled off when I’m dead.

Readers of a certain age will recognize the title reference from Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous, Robin Leach’s hit show about the rich and infamous that ran from 1984 – 1995. It was the granddaddy of celebrity voyeurism, the original orgy of window shopping into lives we would never experience, caviar we would never eat and champagne we would never drink.

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Rod Hensel: How to Start a Group for LGBT Older Adults In Your Community

Rod Hensel, The Gayging Advocate

By Rod Hensel
The Gayging Advocate

We are starting the annual cycle of marches, parades and gatherings to celebrate LGBT pride and to give recognition to the symbolic start of the gay rights movement at the Stonewall Inn.  That focus on the past makes it a good time to step up and start organizing like-minded people in your community who care about the special needs of LGBT seniors and recognize that it was  their sufferings and sacrifices that made possible the acceptance we have gained to date in modern society.

I am not an expert, but with the help of many others I have enjoyed some success here in Buffalo, NY where our Silver Pride Project has grown from a small handful of people to over 100 participants in the last three years.  If you’ve decided this is a need you want to fill and a cause you want to take on, then now is a great time to get going.

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Stephanie Mott: They Are Not Transgender Rights

Stephanie Mott

By Stephanie Mott

They are not transgender rights. They are human rights for people who happen to be transgender or gender non-conforming (TGNC).

Human rights. Civil rights. American rights. Rights that belong to every person on the planet by virtue of the fact that we exist. No person, no city, no state, and no country can give us our rights. They can either recognize our rights or not. And they do deny our rights.

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The Savvy Senior: Coping with Ringing in Your Ears

By Jim Miller

Dear Savvy Senior,
Are there any new treatments you know of that can help with constant ear ringing syndrome known as tinnitus? I’ve had it for years but it’s gotten worse the older I get.
Ringing Louder at 62

Dear Ringing,
Tinnitus is a common condition that affects around 45 million Americans, but is usually more prevalent in the 60-and-older age group. Here’s what you should know along with some tips and treatments that may help.

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The Savvy Senior: How Working in Retirement Can Affect Your Social Security Benefits

By Jim Miller

Dear Savvy Senior,
I’m considering retiring later this year and starting my Social Security benefits, but would also like to work part time. Will this affect my benefits, and if so, how much?
– Ready to Retire

Dear Ready,
You can collect Social Security retirement benefits and work at the same time, but depending on how old you are and how much you earn, some or all of your benefits could be temporarily withheld. Here’s what you should know.

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Some Spring Fiction and Non-Fiction Picks from The Bookworm

A few times a year our intrepid book reviewer Terri Schlichenmeyer provides a dizzying list of book suggestions in several categories. Here are just eight fiction and non-fiction picks for that downtime between spring cleaning and summer. – Mark/Editor

The Bookworm Sez
Terri Schlichenmeyer

The pile of holiday cards has finally been dispensed. They’ve been sitting in a lump on the counter for months, and you just now got around to sorting them. Some were too beautiful to let go; others had messages you wanted to save, some had addresses you needed, a couple pictures fell on your lap, and you also found at least one gift card for a bookstore. Uh oh. Is it still good? Probably, yes. So why not go look for one of these great books?

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Lee Lynch’s Amazon Trail: Answers for A Lesbian High School Student

By Lee Lynch

“My goal was to end our isolation and the portrayal of our lives as dismal tragedies.” – Lee Lynch

Thanks to author Nell Stark—which seems to be something I say at least once a year—I was privileged recently to answer some questions for a lesbian high school student who was writing a paper about 1960’s gay activists. Below are the young woman’s questions and my attempts to answer. I am very fortunate to be able to reach across generations.

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