Kjoy's Life in the Sr Lane: That's what friends are for

Tonight I spent the evening between a gay country music club and a straight, out-of-the-70’s retro bar talking to a friend about relationships, and what came to the forefront was, “What happens when a friendship becomes an abusive relationship?” I told this person that that my therapist (thank god/ess that I have one!) stated that if you feel you’re being used for someone else’s agenda, step away from it. It is not about you and them, it is about their own traps or issues. Now mind you, this came up for discussion after a couple Tanqueray and tonics, but the reality is that friendship should be based on mutual love and respect. Yes, we will take occasional abuse, but when it is inflicted for effect, it’s time to step away and reevaluate the situation. My friend is straight, but we found it best to work things out at Oil Can Harry’s in Studio City. There it’s not about who was there, who was seeing and being seen, but about our friendship. THEN we went to an out-of-the-70s straight bar and had an awesome time, as friends! Anyway, we talked it through. That’s what friendship is about. Not sexual orientation. Not competition with friends’ friends or the friends of the people you love, it is ALL ABOUT loving our friends and being there for them no matter what!]]>